Get Help. Stop Domestic Abuse.

Domestic abuse is not a matter to be taken lightly in any form.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline defines domestic abuse as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. 
Abuse occurs in all types of relationships, socioeconomic statuses, and religions.

If you would like to help women and children suffering from domestic violence, please contact your local women's shelter and ask what donations or volunteering they need.
If you need someone to talk to, please call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY), or logon to

If you're afraid of your partner catching you on this website, CLICK HERE TO ESCAPE THIS SITE NOW.

Here are some very informative sites that cover different aspects of domestic violence, including what causes it, connections to substance abuse, homelessness, and prostitution. There are also a couple that discuss financial escape plans.

Please note that I have not thoroughly gone through each site, but I am confident that they will be helpful.


Or click on one of the following states for a domestic violence website if you're a victim, friend or relative of a victim, would like some answers, or would like to support these organizations.

Mississippi  (Good website)

New Hampshire  (Good site)

New York  (Great site)

Additionally, I have come across this extremely useful site for college students in North Carolina. Please take a few minutes to go through this website to gather information to help a friend or yourself. It has tips for reporting rape on campus, getting restraining orders and protective orders for students, myths vs. facts, where to get help, and more. 

Pennsylvania  (Great site)

South Dakota  (LOTS of tips on the “Get Help” page)

Here is a Dear Abby article I found from 2004. Read this list of danger signs of a potential absuer.



DEAR ABBY: Two weeks ago, my husband let it slip that he wants a divorce. Since we were married, his personality has changed completely. He is not the man I married.

I would like to pass along some tips for anyone considering marriage, and share some of the bright-red flags I chose to ignore.

If your parents or siblings have doubts about him, pay attention. Listen and check it out.

If your intended has nothing good to say about his ex, beware. This is a pattern. Divorce is rarely only one person's fault.

If his children have nothing to do with him, do not believe him if he says his ex brainwashed them against him. My stepchildren have told me it was because they hated him, and they have good reasons.

Look closely at his credit and job history. They are sure predictors of what your life will be like.

If he's over 30 and has no money, do not let him move in with you, and don't marry him until he's financially solvent. If he has any respect for you (and himself), he'll insist on it.

Be sure in your heart that you can live with him AS IS. You cannot change another person.

This is a biggie: Beware if he has no friends. It is not true that they all chose to side with his ex.

If your friends dislike him, pay attention. This is also true if he hates your friends.

If he has more than one DUI and still drinks, run!

If he is one personality at work or with others, and another person alone with you, run.

If he has nothing to do with his parents, investigate why. Don't take his word for it.

If he's an expert at everything and brags a lot, understand that he will turn off a lot of people, eventually maybe even you.

If he has sexual problems, go with him to a doctor before you marry him. Believe me, his problem will become your problem.

If he is emotionally or verbally abusive, it will only get worse. Yelling, name-calling and glowering are classic signs of an abuser.

If he is never wrong and never apologizes, everything will be "your fault" forever. And after years of hearing it, you may even start to accept the blame.

If he does something wrong and says, "That wouldn't have happened if you hadn't ( )," that's another sign of an abuser.

And if he's mean to children, pets or animals, recognize that he's pathological, and the next victim could be you.

I am now 100 percent disabled and in danger of losing everything. I was taken in by someone who came to regard me as a disposable item. I only hope my letter will save someone else from the heartbreak I'm experiencing. -- EYES WIDE OPEN IN MISSISSIPPI

DEAR EYES WIDE OPEN: Your letter is brimming with well-thought-out advice, and I hope my readers will heed it. Now I have some advice for you: Start asking around for the name of the best divorce lawyer you can find, and be prepared for a fight. I wish you luck.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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